25 Things I learned by 25
I'm a quarter of a century old today. How crazy is that? Okay, maybe it's not so crazy. 25 is nothing. 25 years of existence. I'm still here, alive and kickin' it. I've survived 25 years in this scary, dangerous, beautiful world. Okay, yeah, that's pretty crazy. Some people don't even get this far, so to be alive and typing this blog entry right now, I'm pretty darn grateful.
I think your 20-something years are one of the most important stages you go through in life. As you've witnessed on my blog, it's a time of growth and a time of learning. And so, I've taken it upon myself to compile the 25 things I've learned by the time I hit 25 years old, which I hope you will learn (and more) by the time you're 25 too:
- Age is just a number. It doesn't define who you are, where you are, or where you're going in life.
- Your Quarter Life Crisis is temporary. No matter how lost and shitty you feel today, you'll more or less won't feel it tomorrow. You'll be okay.
- Grow and invest in relationships worth investing. You don't have to cut people out of your life if they're not toxic, but if this person isn't really helping you grow, it's okay to distance yourself.
- Moving away from home will better your relationship with your parents, because absence does make the heart grow fonder. As you go out there and make a place for yourself in the real world, your parents no longer see you as a kid and will start treating you like an adult. They're still your parents, but they're also like your friends.
- When you fill yourself and surround yourself with positivity, you will attract positive things. Never underestimate the law of attraction.
- Be kind. Be just as kind to yourself as you would be towards others.
- Speak up. Let yourself be heard. Your mind is not a prison.
- "Respond to every call that excites your spirit." --Rumi. See where it takes you.
- What others think of you is none of your business. People will always have something to say, it's best to let the negative ones roll of your back.
- Sometimes the only way to go is to jump into the unknown. Just jump and the net will appear.
- Never take any anon online seriously.
- When in doubt, just shut your mouth. Same as "if you've got nothing nice to say, just don't say anything at all." it not only helps yourself but the world around you as well. Nothing good ever comes out of negativity. (This is, of course, something I'm still working on! But at least I'm more conscious about it now)
- It's okay to just take a break from the rest of the world when you need it. Stay in bed the entire day, eat and pig out, drown yourself in movies, books, music. Just have alone time, and spring back up the next day.
- Your circumstances do not dictate your success or failures. Your success or failures are entirely up to you.
- The only person you should compare yourself to is your old self.
- Money isn't everything. No amount of money can ever be worth life experiences. So go out there and live.
- Traveling solo in an unknown place is therapeutic to the soul.
- One of the best feelings is finally getting to buy the expensive things you want out of your hard earned money.
- All good and healthy relationships are built on communication from both parties.
- Our parents, especially our mothers, are always right. No matter how much you think you know everything at your current age now, your mother truly knows best.
- Do what you love, love what you do. You should be working on a career that excites your spirit, that makes you wake up in the morning, not something that makes you dread the day.
- Pursue your passions but don't whine and sulk if it doesn't go the way you imagined it. Nothing worth having in life ever comes easy.
- Your body will change -- love it anyway. From a skinny teenager, my body has changed to a more womanly shape. I've learned to accept this and love myself, despite society thinking I'm no where near perfect.
- Treat yo' self! Always date yourself. Go for a manicure, eat out and eat good food, watch a movie, get your hair done. "Self-love is the very first kind of romance" and it's so darn true. Love yourself and treat yourself right.
- Do whatever makes you feel alive, what makes you happy, what makes you feel excited, what amazes and amuses you. Do it all without an ounce of self-doubt, judgments or worries.